source: Meghan Watson, @Thrive_WithMeg
Key word here is practice! Asking for help isn’t always intuitive, and many of us are just beginning to explore our needs, wants, and hopes without judgment or shame.
Try saying these out-loud to yourself if it feels awkward or uncomfortable, or reword these suggestions into something that feels true to you. Putting in the work to practice identifying what you need and then also asking for help will take time.
Be gentle with yourselves in this process.
“I’m struggling with this, do you have the time/capacity to help?”
Acknowledge when things are difficult and reach out around time and capacity before assuming rejection.
“I’m inspired by your ability to do X, would you feel comfortable sharing about your journey?”
Asking for help can also look like inquiring about others who have taken a path in a direction similar to where you want to go.
“I’m having a difficult time getting my feelings out, is it okay if I just sit with you?”
You might not always know exactly what you need help with, but you may want company or connection. Practice asking for it directly if it feels right.
“This feels confusing to me, can you clarify what you mean by X?”
If things feel unclear, help might come in the form of clarification or follow up. Don’t be afraid to reach out and get the answers you need.
“I’d love your support with this, are you able to pitch in with X?”
Connect with the skillset and specific support you might need to move forward. By expressing directly where the other person can be helpful, you might increase your chances of success.
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